another thought for today. on the drive to the long boring dinner the other day, d shared a story about her father. she has always been close with her dad, more so than her sisters are, but lately her dad was driving her crazy. we debriefed about our similar experiences which gave me an idea. all of these things that we have been confronted with in recent years would be and are much easier when we realize that it's not just us. (which is probably a selfish notion. it seems ridiculous to believe than any experience is unique to any one of us as individuals.) it is because of this conversation, i offer you this list.
shit they should have warned you about in school.
1. it's ok if you don't know what you want to be when you grow up. stumbling around is good.
2. even if you get your "dream job" it's okay to end up hating it. it happens. you will find something you do like doing. and remember, statistically, people change careers 5-8 times in their life and it's projected that generation y will change even more than that.
3. parents, particularly dads, get weird when they realize their children don't need them as much. this tends to lead to them asking a series of annoying questions, such as: "how do you plan on getting from the airport to your hotel on vacation?" there is a weird adjustment for parents when they realize their children are capable adults and there is no distraction. this is particularly bad for parents/dads who are retired or laid off or just have too much time on their hands. i recommend getting them a puppy.
4. life is full of unexpected surprises, get use to that and everything else seems a lot easier. (or get a xanax prescription.)
5. the realization that college was expensive and probably didn't teach you a lot more than how to old your own hair when you vomit will hit you in the face. it's fine because that thinking on your feet thing is way more important than whatever you were supposed to learn in class.
6. the sooner you realize that no one gives a damn, the better off you will be. no one is as concerned with what you are doing, how or when you doing whatever it is as you are. so chill out.
and finally...
7. no one has a rule book for life. it's unfair, it's awkward and it has no interest in making it easy. the trick is to realize that all the hard things you have to manage will be good lessons to take with you as you move through life. (i haven't quite figured out that last part yet but i'm working at it.)
from the girl who stumbles and falls an awful lot (but still less than i expect).
until next time...
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